Life is tough with all the challenges, unfortunate events and circumstances. But remember, you are tougher! How to bounce back after every fall? Student Reporter Kousalya provides some food for thought!
“A good half of the art of living is resilience”.
-Alain de Botton
Adversities and setbacks are common in life. But resilience is the difference between staying in the rock bottom and reaching the zenith. Simply put, resilience is the ability to bounce back from adversities. It endows a person with the power to make the best out of the worst and rise above all odds.
Is resilience an extraordinary quality? Does resilience deserve the entire glorification? I believe that resilience is overly glorified and not rightly treated for what it is. Resilience does not grow out of superhuman capabilities. It is a touch of ordinary magic all of us are endowed with.
Resilient people do not exist. They are just ordinary people with a trigger to their resilience and for the rest of us resilience is dormant waiting for a trigger. Some of us recover from an adversity more easily and quickly than others. Resilience is hard to cultivate, but not rare.
Is this mental strength in-built in me? No. As an infant, I cried for no reason just the way you did!
I believe that from adversities comes greatness. The admiration most importantly arises from their stories of trials and tribulations and how they were able to achieve against all the odds. A ticket collector called MS Dhoni, went on to wear the blue jersey of a Captain. But his journey was far from being a bed of roses. He had a dream larger than life and no obstacle could stop him from winning!
For me Sudha Chandran, a prominent Bharatanatyam dancer stands as an epitome of resilience. At the age of 16, with an infected ankle wound and with no choice but to amputate her leg, Chandran rose above the trauma to make it big in her profession. She bounced back after every fall. Well, that’s what being mentally tough is all about!
Indian civilization in itself has been resilient from the start. It has stood against the tornado of upheavals, European modernism, political battles, disasters and partitions. The triumph of the struggle of Indian independence stands as a reminder that tough roads lead to beautiful destinations.
Mental resilience is not a superhuman quality and so it can, of course, be cultivated. Resilient people do not let themselves drown in a problem. When facing a problem, resilient people immediately look at the problem and ask themselves “What is the solution?” and “What is this trying to teach me?”. Humor is a blessing while dealing with tough situations and tragedy. Resilient people have an exceptional ability to stay positive and see the good in a bad situation. They seem to find a reason to get together, laugh together and share some special moments even in the worst of times. They are well aware that hope is stronger than fear. Social support helps deal with adversities efficiently. Togetherness provides comfort and strength to fight back.
“Burn if you must. But, rise from the dust and become whole again.”Resilience is not gold dust. Resilience is neither rare nor exceptional. Being resilient and overcoming obstacles simply means to tap into a deep well of faith and endurance and to cope with failure in a healthy manner, to grieve yet move on.